Couples therapy with me is a balance of structure, safety, and honesty.
I help you and your partner slow down the reactive moments so you can truly hear one another. I don’t take sides; my focus is on understanding the emotional cycle that keeps you stuck and helping you interrupt it together. Beneath every argument or distancing are often unspoken needs for closeness, safety, or belonging. When we can reach those places, connection begins to repair.
Slowing down to reconnect
Couples therapy offers a space to pause the cycle of conflict and turn toward each other differently. In our sessions, I help partners step back from reactivity and make sense of what’s happening between them. We look beneath the content of arguments to the emotions and longings driving them. This process often creates understanding where defensiveness once stood, opening space for trust and empathy to grow.
What sessions look like
Sessions are 55 minutes and typically offered weekly or biweekly, depending on your needs. In the beginning, we focus on mapping your recurring cycle—the pattern of pursing, withdrawing, or defending that keeps both partners feeling alone. From there, we begin to slow that process down in real time, so you can express what’s truly happening underneath the frustration or distance. As your bond strengthens, you’ll develop new ways of reaching for each other, repairing faster, and feeling emotionally safer together.
Couples therapy with me is not about learning communication tricks or debating who’s right; it’s about building emotional safety so that vulnerability and connection can re-emerge naturally. The work is experiential and emotionally focused rather than scripted or tool-based.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
My approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based model that helps couples identify and shift emotional patterns that create distance. EFT is rooted in attachment theory and decades of research showing that people are wired for connection. In this work, we move beyond surface communication to help you understand and express the deeper emotions that shape your relationship—fear, shame, loneliness, longing, and love.
Throughout this process, partners learn how to reach for one another from a place of vulnerability and care rather than criticism and withdrawal. These moments of emotional contact are what create lasting change.
Intensive Sessions
For some couples, deeper or more focused work may be beneficial. I offer intensive experiences—extended sessions designed to help couples make meaningful progress in a condensed period of time. These intensives provide the spaciousness needed to slow down and explore core emotional dynamics at depth, without the usual time constraints of weekly therapy.
Because of the immersive nature of this format, intensives require a specific referral process and a detailed consultation to determine fit. If you are interested in this format, please indicate this when you reach out.
Rebuilding Trust and Resilience Together
The goal of couples therapy isn’t just to resolve conflict—it’s to help you create a relationship that feels secure, responsive, and alive. With support, couples often rediscover a sense of partnership that feels grounded in honesty, empathy, and mutual care.
